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If You Only Read A Few Books In 2025, Read These

I can’t predict the future, so I don’t know what the year will bring, but I feel pretty confident in predicting that 2025 will be challenging.

First of all, because what year hasn’t brought challenges? Never forget, Seneca reminds us, Fortune has a habit of behaving exactly as she pleases. Why would 2025 be an exception to this rule? There is no normal in this life…except disruption, change and surprise.

Second, because it already is challenging. We’re three weeks into the year and there have already been fires and wars, political dysfunction, attacks and earthquakes. My kids have already been sick. And we’re just getting started.

The question, then, is not how we can avoid these challenges but how we can prepare for them. One of my favorite quotes, inscribed across the back of ​my bookstore​, comes from Walter Mosley: “I’m not saying that you have to be a reader to save your soul in the modern world. I’m saying it helps.”

2025 will be crazy and weird and tough. But probably not any more than the year 1925. Or the year 25 AD. That means there are lots of books, lots of ideas, lots of history that can help us with what lies ahead…because it will rhyme with what lies behind us. Whether we’re navigating personal trials, global upheavals, or moments of inspiration, books remain one of the most reliable tools to help us prepare for what’s to come. They challenge us, ground us, and offer us the wisdom of centuries.

With that in mind, here are some books—some timeless, some timely—that I recommend for 2025. Each one offers something unique to help you grow, reflect, and thrive. ​You can also get this collection at my bookstore, The Painted Porch​.

​Slow Productivity: The Lost Art of Accomplishment Without Burnout​ by Cal Newport
As we head into 2025, the pressure to do more, to be constantly busy, to fill every moment with productivity and progress feels more intense than ever. In ​Slow Productivity​, Cal Newport, one of my favorite writers and thinkers, rethinks what productivity can and should mean, making a strong case for the power of doing less but doing it better. It’s funny, people think I work a lot, but I don’t. I’m much closer to Cal’s outline in ​this book​. I take my kids to school every day. I get home well before dinner every night. I take a lot of walks (​here’s Cal and I talking about the power of walks for idea generation​). I just do this steadily and consistently. When Cal came on the podcast (​watch here​), we talked about this idea of Festina lente—make haste slowly—that is my philosophy for the most part.

​​The Choice: Embrace the Possible​ by Dr. Edith Eva Eger
Dr. Eger is a complete hero of mine. At 16-years-old, she’s sent to Auschwitz. And how does this not break a person? How do they survive? How do they endure the unendurable? And how do they emerge from this, not just not broken, but cheerful and happy and of service to other people? The last thing Dr. Eger’s mother said to her before she was sent to the gas chambers was that very Stoic idea: even when we find ourselves in horrendous situations, we can always choose how we respond to them, who we’re going to be inside of them, what we’re going to hold onto inside of them. Dr. Eger quotes ​Frankl​, who she later studied under, “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” It was this idea that allowed Dr. Eger to not only endure unimaginable suffering but to find meaning in it. I’ve had the incredible honor of interviewing Dr. Eger twice (​here​ and ​here​) and the joy and energy of this woman, this 95-year-old Holocaust survivor, is just incredible.

​Montaigne​ by Stefan Zweig
We did a video right after the election​ about what a Stoic should be thinking about in times like these. It might be of use to you. Me? I picked up my copy of Zweig’s little book on Montaigne, which has been of solace and strength since I read it back in 2016. There are two kinds of biographies: Long ones which tell you every fact about the person’s life, and short ones which capture the person’s essence and the lessons of their life. This biography is a brilliant, urgent and important example of the latter. It is what I ​would call a moral biography​—that is, a book that teaches you how to live through the story of another person. If you’ve been struggling with the onslaught of negative news and political turmoil, read this book. It’s the biography of a man who retreated from the chaos of 16th-century France to study himself, written by a man fleeing the chaos of 20th-century Europe. When I say it’s timely, I mean that it’s hard to be a thinking person and not see alarming warning signs about today’s world while reading this book. Yet it also gives us a solution: Turn inward. Master yourself. This book helped me get through 2024, no question. ​Plutarch’s Lives​ is another one I’d add to the moral biography genre, which I used to help me write ​Right Thing, Right Now​.

​The Years of Lyndon Johnson​ by Robert A. Caro
As much as I love those short, moral biographies, there is nothing I love more than door-stopper biographies. You know those magisterial, epic books that seem like they couldn’t possibly be worth reading, but somehow you’re riveted on every page? If you want to try one of those this year, start with Robert Caro. Just these four books alone could tie you up for the whole year, and that alone would be well spent. It’s unquestionable to me that Caro is one of the greatest biographers to ever live. His intricate, complicated, sprawling investigation into Lyndon Johnson will change how you see power, ambition, politics, personality and justice. If there is one line that sums up the whole series it’s this: It’s that power doesn’t only corrupt. That’s too simple. What power does is reveal.

​A Calendar of Wisdom: Daily Thoughts to Nourish the Soul, Written and Selected from the World’s Sacred Texts​ by Leo Tolstoy
Tolstoy said that his most essential work was not his novels but his daily read, ​A Calendar of Wisdom​. Before he wrote it, he dreamed of creating a book composed of “a wise thought for every day of the year, from the greatest philosophers of all times and all people… Epictetus, Marcus Aurelius, Lao-Tzu, Buddha, Pascal.” As he wrote to his assistant, “I know that it gives one great inner force, calmness, and happiness to communicate with such great thinkers… They tell us about what is most important for humanity, about the meaning of life and about virtue.” As you can imagine, I am a big fan of daily devotionals. Check out ​dailystoic.com​ and ​dailydad.com​ for the free daily email versions I do.

​Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do About It​ by Richard Reeves
I’ve got two young boys (thus the ​Daily Dad email​), so I’ve been following Richard Reeves’s work for some time. This book could so easily have been culture war fodder, but thankfully, he is so much above and beyond that. The gains society has made for women–especially in America–have been utterly unprecedented. But men are struggling, or rather, young boys are struggling. How do we help them? How do we show them a better path? How do we teach them to fulfill their potential and contribute their unique contribution to society? Given my work with Stoicism, I think we’ve gone too far in describing masculinity as ‘toxic’ (​check out a recent video I did about Stoic lessons on masculinity​) but I would say there are many toxic examples (and thinkers) out there who are misleading young men (​which I talk about in this video​). If you’re a parent or a teacher or a policy maker, you have to read this book. ​Check out my conversation with Richard Reeves here​.

​Bright Shining: How Grace Changes Everything​ by Julia Baird
So when I was in Australia, I sat down with Julia to talk about her new book, ​Bright Shining​, which is all about the idea of grace (​watch that episode here​). We are wicked people living amongst wicked people, Seneca said, that’s why we need to be patient with each other, why we need to forgive each other. I would say this is especially true coming out of the pandemic and the recent election.

​The Children​ by David Halberstam
I was deeply moved, in some cases to tears, by David Halberstam’s ​The Children​, when I first read it in 2022. It tells the story of the early days of the Civil Rights Movement from the perspective of the young activists who played pivotal roles in the struggle for racial equality and grew up to lead the movement. It’s an incredibly powerful book about youth and social change–and how it comes from brave young people. I haven’t stopped thinking about it since I first read it. Trust me, ​pick it up this year.​

​Parting the Waters: America in the King Years 1954-63​, ​Pillar of Fire: America in the King Years 1963-65​, and ​At Canaan’s Edge: America in the King Years 1965-68​ by Taylor Branch
Another long biography series…I was blown away by Taylor Branch’s epic three-part biography on Martin Luther King Jr. when I first read it back in 2020—it was truly life-changing for me. I was once again profoundly impacted by this series as I picked it back up to do research for ​Right Thing, Right Now​. This trilogy does a phenomenal job of revealing the ways that an individual person really can have an impact on the collective. It’s a masterpiece of a series, made even better by the fact that Branch began the series when his son was born, and finished it with the help of that same son years later (​read more about that here​).

​Same as Ever: A Guide to What Never Changes​ by Morgan Housel
Too often, we give way too much attention to what is shiny and new or urgent and timely instead of focusing on what truly matters—the things that are perennial and enduring. Morgan (​who I had a great conversation with Morgan on the podcast​) put together a great book of anecdotes and musings on the constants of human nature and history. In a world that seems to change faster every year, ​this book​ reminds us of the things that stay the same—and why they matter. If you loved Morgan’s ​The Psychology of Money​, this book is a natural next step. It’s not just about what we know—it’s about what we understand about ourselves, our behavior, and the world we live in. ​This is a book to read​, reflect on, and revisit.

​​The 48 Laws of Power​ by Robert Greene
Speaking of things that never change—there are some awful people and awful movements on the march around the world. This feels new, but of course, it’s not–these people have always existed. The problem is they are just not well understood. Worse, good people are not often armed with the tools (or the cunning) to defeat or to effectuate change. If you want to live life on your terms, climb as high as you know you’re capable, and avoid being controlled by others—you need to read ​this book​. You’ll leave not just with actionable lessons, but an indelible sense of what to do in many trying and confusing situations. Is there a darkness to this book? Yes. But there is a darkness to life, too. You have to understand it and be able to defend against it. If you don’t want to read it because you think it’s ‘immoral,’ well then you definitely need to read it, ​as I explain in this video​.

​​It Can’t Happen Here​ by Sinclair Lewis
One of my reading rules is: If you want to understand current events, don’t rely on breaking news. Find a book about a similar event in the past. It’s also true that fiction helps us understand the human heart and the events of history more than nonfiction can. ​This book​ will make you so uncomfortable you’ll probably pick it up and put it down several times. One of America’s most famous writers wrote a bestselling novel in 1935 about an appalling populist demagogue who won the presidency of the United States. Life imitates art. Change the dates, places and names and it’s no longer fiction, it’s real. If you don’t read the book, at least please read about it. Because you need to know. It can happen here.

​Address Unknown​ by Kathrine Kressmann Taylor
This is another timely book to pick up this year. It’s a short but important read about a series of letters between two business partners (one Jewish, one not) during the rise of Hitler in Germany. One is slowly corrupted by the events happening around him, his heart closing to the people and ideas he once believed in. It’s a heartbreaking but eye-opening look at the banality of fascism. People don’t just suddenly become evil or awful. It’s a process, a slide, even a response to incentives. It can happen to anyone. We should all be careful! I first read ​Address Unknown​ years ago, but I was reminded of it again when I read ​84, Charing Cross Road​ by Helene Hanff last summer which is about a New York TV writer and a British bookseller exchanging letters in the aftermath of WWII. Read ​Address Unknown​ and then follow it up with ​84, Charing Cross Road​.

​​The Expanding Circle​ by Peter Singer
Even though Stoicism is a ruggedly individual philosophy, at the core of it is this idea of “the circles of concern.” Our first concern, the Stoics said, is ourselves. Then our family, our community, our country, our world, all living things. The work of philosophy is to draw these concerns inward—to learn to care about as many people as possible, to do as much good as possible. I dedicated an entire chapter in my book ​Right Thing, Right Now​ to this idea, titled “Expand The Circle” (​you can listen to an excerpt of that chapter here!​). So when I had ​Peter Singer on the podcast​ and mentioned this book, he said he only chanced on a similar metaphor, not knowing its Stoic origins. ​The Expanding Circle​ is a great book about expanding our focus on the welfare of family and friends to include, ultimately, all of humanity—animals, the environment, all of it.

​Atomic Habits​ by James Clear
A perennial favorite because it works. It’s when things are chaotic and crazy, when the world feels like it’s falling apart, that we most need to develop good habits. I think about James Clear’s concept of atomic habits on a regular basis. To me, this is a sign of a ​great book​—that even just thinking about the title has an impact on you. I love the double meaning of the word atomic—not just meaning explosive habits, but also focusing on the smallest possible size of habit, the tiniest step you can take to start the chain reaction that can in fact lead to explosive results.

​Bushido: The Samurai Code of Japan: With an Extensive Introduction and Notes by Alexander Bennett​ by Inazō Nitobe
I can’t remember which subscriber emailed me about this book, but I really liked it. Written in 1905, ​Bushido: The Samurai Code of Japan​ was the first book written for a Western audience about the code of conduct that governed the lives of Japan’s ruling class. It gets to “the soul of Japan” by answering the question of why certain ideas and customs prevail. It was a huge sensation in the U.S. when it came out. I believe Theodore Roosevelt read it. It’s a lovely peon to the virtues of an ancient tradition and deserves to be read up there with ​The Book of Five Rings​ and ​Zen in the Art of Archery​ (two other favorites of mine). Fictionally, there is also ​Rules for a Knight​, which is another great read.

​How to Think Like Socrates: Ancient Philosophy as a Way of Life in the Modern World​ by Donald Robertson
I remain as ever a big fan of Donald Robertson. His biography of Marcus Aurelius is one of the best books I’ve read and I loved his other book on Marcus Aurelius, ​How to Think Like a Roman Emperor​. There’s a hilarious quote by Macaulay that I used in the Wisdom book (just finishing it): “The more I read about Socrates the less I wonder that they poisoned him.” Because while the dialogs are fun to read now, they weren’t fun for the people he was making a fool of. Socrates considered himself the ‘gadfly’ of Athens. People hate flies! ​When Donald came on The Daily Stoic Podcast​, this was one of the things I wanted to ask him about–that for all Socrates’ wisdom, he seemed to lack social intelligence. Emily Wilson talks about this in her book ​The Death of Socrates​ quite a bit (a good companion to Donald’s book). Fascinating book about a guy who, like Cicero, I can’t decide if I like.

​​Meditations​ by Marcus Aurelius
This will always be my ultimate book recommendation. No matter who you are, where you live, how old you are, or how many times you’ve already read Marcus Aurelius’ ​Meditations​, it’s time for you to read it. I’m a champion of the ​Gregory Hays translation​, but if you are re-reading it, I’ve found that a new translation of a book you’ve read (or love) is a great way to see the same ideas from a new angle…or find new ideas you missed on the previous go-arounds. So if you haven’t read ​Robin Walterfield’s edition, check that one out​. There’s a reason this book has endured for almost twenty centuries (​here are some lessons​ from me having read ​Meditations​ more than 100 times). If you haven’t read Marcus Aurelius or if you have…you should ​read this book​ and then read it again.

January 26, 2025by Ryan Holiday
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This Habit Is Making You Miserable (And Driving You Insane)

Stop watching cable news, it’s bad for you.

Stop filtering the world through social media, it’s a cesspool.

Turn off those breaking news alerts on your phone—none of them are as important as you think.

But isn’t it my responsibility to be an informed citizen?

Absolutely.

The problem is, we’ve fooled ourselves into thinking that endless news consumption is how you stay “informed”.

About 15 years ago, I made an abrupt turn in my life. Souring on the marketing world, I wrote ​Trust Me, I’m Lying​, a book about media manipulation. Although a lot has changed since it came out in 2012 (and a lot has changed ​since the updated edition in 2017​), it’s alarming how relevant the book continues to be. It was, if anything, ahead of its time. Today, we are awash not just with fake news but with too much news, period. Too much information. Too much noise.

I had a few aims with that book but one of my hopes was that when people saw how the sausage was made, they would eat a lot less sausage (and certainly less factory-farmed sausage).

Yet here we are—across the political spectrum—consuming way too much of it. No wonder we’re miserable! No wonder we’re overwhelmed. No wonder we’re easier to manipulate than ever.

In some countries, like Finland, they teach kids media literacy and how to spot propaganda (largely due to their border with Russia). But the rest of the world? We’re just not equipped for the environment we are in.

And that’s my argument today: If you want to make a positive difference in the world—or simply maintain your sanity—you need to step back. You need to learn how to be more philosophical—which means being more discerning about what you let into your mind and learning how to see the big picture, calmly and with perspective.

As I said, being informed is essential. The problem is that breaking news isn’t about informing you. It’s about grabbing and holding your attention—news that is, by definition, not the complete story. It is almost certainly going to be changed as events unfold. George S. Trow observed this decades ago: “Notice that the news is written in such a way that all these ‘dramatic’ ravelings and unravelings are reported in detail…but should the thing finally come together, the news will just stop.” Today, it doesn’t stop—it keeps going and going with endless updates, speculation, and hot takes to keep you in the 24/7/365 cycle.

And social media? It’s even worse. The constant stream of opinions and outrage—how can you possibly have time to think and reflect when your brain is being buzzed by attention-seekers trying to outdo each other?

When you watch sports shows during the day, it’s easy to laugh at the manufactured drama. It’s easy to see that Stephen A. Smith or Skip Bayless are masters at finding things to be upset about, finding things to make you upset about, spinning storylines about who’s overrated, whose game is in decline, and whose job is in jeopardy. It’s all nonsense—not because it’s about sports, but because it’s just meaningless noise: opinions about past events or speculations about future ones, masquerading as meaningful discussion. As if having those opinions is anything but a form of mental masturbation.

Cable news and social media follow the same playbook as the sports media cycle. They just hide the ball better.

And all this isn’t even touching on the bad actors who exploit the incentives of this system (which is what ​Trust Me I’m Lying​ really explores). The media strategist behind Donald Trump, for example, has been very clear about how they “flood the zone with shit” to distract and disorient people. Foreign powers use similar methods: They don’t suppress information so much as they overwhelm people with contradictory and divisive information, propping up fringe viewpoints to turn people against each other. People like Tucker Carlson tell their audience one thing and then in private, say the complete opposite (​as confirmed by multiple lawsuits​). They are not informed experts. They are not your friends. They are con artists, provocateurs and profiteers who are preying on you.

This is not an environment conducive to understanding, to say the least. Some people’s media habits remind me of that line from The Simpsons: “Not only am I not learning, I’m forgetting stuff I used to know!”

There is almost nothing on the news or social media that is not intentionally designed to agitate and outrage. It’s there to distract you. To consume your attention. That there are teams of designers, behavioral scientists, and engineers paid gobsmacking amounts of money to keep you watching and scrolling…posting and waiting for replies.

The same goes for every other publisher or platform. Television doesn’t want you to get up and take action, they want you to sit through the commercial break. A news outlet doesn’t want you to be so outraged by an article that you do something, no, they want you to stay and click another article at the bottom…or one of those scammy AI-written Taboola ads at the bottom (which again, ​I wrote about 11 years ago​ and still exist!).

Stop falling for it.

When I’m not feeling great physically—tired, irritable, sluggish—usually it’s because I’m eating poorly. In the same way, when I feel mentally scattered and distracted—I know it’s time to clean up my information diet.

“If you wish to improve,” Epictetus once said, “be content to appear clueless or stupid in extraneous matters.”

One of the most powerful things we can do as human beings in our hyperconnected, 24/7 digital media world is to turn our attention to things that last, to get out of the hellscape of noise and go to truth. It’s a transgressive act, I think, to pick up a book these days—better yet, an old book. If you wish to understand the present moment, you’ll gain more clarity by studying the past than you will from following the breathless news cycle. Put distance between you and the attention merchants. Read philosophy. Read history. Read biographies. Study psychology. Study the patterns of humanity.

During the pandemic, I learned more from reading John M. Barry’s ​The Great Influenza​ (about a pandemic 100 years earlier) than I did from any daily news briefing. My understanding of the demagogues of this moment has been shaped not just by my reading of history but also by fiction—I strongly recommend ​All The King’s Men​ and ​It Can’t Happen Here​. Want to understand America and the EU right now? Read Mike Duncan’s ​The Storm Before The Storm​ about Rome and the hundred years of political dysfunction that preceded Julius Caesar. Want to understand what happened in the days after the 2020 election? Read ​Sallust on conspiracies​. Want to understand how the system is supposed to work? Read Jeffrey Rosen and Tom Ricks’s books on the philosophical influences on the founders (​The Pursuit of Happiness​ and ​First Principles​).

I have not just read these things, but I’ve reached out to the authors (when possible) and interviewed them. I didn’t do this so much for the audience as I did for my own understanding–I wanted to hear from actual experts, not professional opinion-havers. (Here’s me talking to media experts like ​Renée DiResta​ and ​Jonathan Haidt​. Historians like ​Adam Hochschild,​ ​John M. Barry​, ​Barry Strauss​, ​Thomas Ricks​ and ​Josiah Osgood​​. Here’s my talking to a ​former Democratic congressman​, ​a Republican Senator​. Here’s me talking to ​Democratic and Republican Mayors​. Here’s me talking to ​a former Republican communications operative.)

What I’m always trying to do is ground my sense of what’s happening in reality. I’m trying to get perspective. I’m trying to get context. I don’t always get it right–I sometimes get caught up in the ‘current thing’ or get anxious or worked up about stuff that doesn’t matter–but I’ll tell you what: I don’t wake up every day miserable. I have also avoided, unlike many people I know, ​getting sucked into the mob​.

This is exactly what one of the early Stoics said was the job of the philosopher. We’re supposed to think for ourselves. We’re supposed to be above the fray.

So I’m not saying you need to disconnect completely. What I’m saying is you can’t possibly hope to keep your bearings about you these days if your understanding of the world is primarily dependent on the news of the day. No, you need to be rooted in something deeper than the so-called “first draft of history” or the ticker tape of what the sociologist E. Robert Kelly once called the “specious present.” Ask yourself: Is this thing that I’m consuming likely to still be relevant, still important, in a day? Or in five days, or in a week or in a year or five years?

Then ask yourself: Am I consuming or contributing? Because too often we conflate these things. The time spent scrolling or reacting on social media could be spent engaging with your community, voting, attending a city council meeting, teaching your children, making ethical decisions in your own business, or simply having a meaningful conversation.

If we could break free from this loop, not only could we get some meaningful work done, but we might be able to connect with each other in ways that are productive instead of divisive.

There is a tradeoff here: by choosing deliberate ignorance of the nonsense and chatter, we gain the ability to prioritize and see with clarity. It’s a swap—generalized outrage for the capacity to focus on what truly matters. Whether you see the next four years as the beginning of real positive change or the beginning of the end—one thing is certain: you will be able to think about it all more objectively if you followed the breathless news cycle less.

Meanwhile, Trump—a news and social media addict if there ever was one—is charged not with campaigning for president anymore but with being president. That’s going to require ignoring the talking heads—the ones that hate him and the ones that love him—or the apps on his phone and focusing on doing one of the toughest jobs on the planet. Social media will only be a source of aggravation and distraction for them and for us. Catering to the people who sell our attention for money will not only deprive us of any potential common ground, it will actually make us less accountable to each other.

Of course, this isn’t just about politics or presidents. You can replace “Trump administration” with whatever you care about and leaders of all types. The point remains: there is plenty of important work to do in this world and plenty to be vigilant about.

But let’s stop pretending that the ceaseless news feed is anything other than what it is: addiction and manipulation masquerading as a social good. Then we wonder why we’re left sapped of reason and willpower and perspective.

Stay informed.

But do it differently:

Pick up a book.

Be a philosopher.

January 22, 2025by Ryan Holiday
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This Is What I Learned From One of My Heroes 

When I lived in New Orleans, I used to get my haircut by this guy named Pat in the French Quarter. I remember looking around the Monteleone Barber Shop, which had two conspicuously empty chairs, and asking why Pat never had anyone else working in the shop with him.

“I used to,” he said, “but the other barbers kept speaking badly about the President so I let them go.” Ordinarily, I would have just left it at that–this was the Deep South and politics are always risky–but I had to know.

“What president?” I asked.

“Jimmy Carter,” he said like I should have known.

I remember thinking, “lol what?” Had he really been holding onto this grudge for thirty years? And who white knights for Jimmy Carter?

But that curious exchange sent me down a rabbit hole. Over the years, I read a chunk of the books Carter wrote (I would not have guessed he wrote 30+ books). I also read several big biographies on Carter and became genuinely fascinated by a man that I’m not sure I’d heard a single good thing about growing up.

But because of Pat, slowly but surely, Jimmy Carter became one of my heroes. In fact, I’d argue he is the hero of my book Right Thing, Right Now, and largely the inspiration for the title. He appears in Discipline is Destiny and some of my favorite stories in The Daily Dad (like this one). And back in April, it was one of the honors of my life to give a speech about Carter at the U.S. Naval Academy, which Carter graduated from in 1946 right across from the recently named Carter Hall. (You can watch the speech here or at the link below and check out the others in my four virtues series here and here and here).

Well, less than two weeks ago, Jimmy Carter died at age 100. 100! The longest-living president in American history. That doesn’t tell us anything, though. Seneca’s line was that it’s not how long you live but how well you live that matters. He was pointing out that many people live to be old but have little to show for it. 

What I wanted to talk about today is some of the things that Jimmy Carter has to show for the century he spent on this planet.

The reviews of his presidency are unfairly mixed—this was a man whose term was without wars, without corruption, first addressed climate change, mandated the seatbelt in cars, returned the Panama Canal to its rightful owners, a historic peace deal for the Middle East.

As he summed up his own time in office: “We told the truth, we obeyed the law, and we kept the peace.”

Pretty good.

But his time as an ex-president is unquestioned. After he left office, Carter founded The Carter Center to promote global health, democracy, and human rights, earning him a Nobel Peace Prize in 2002. In particular, Carter was relentless in his efforts to eradicate Guinea worm disease. At a 2015 press conference, Carter famously said, “I’d like for the last Guinea worm to die before I do.” When he started working on the problem, the disease afflicted more than 3.6 million people a year in 21 countries. As of the latest report at the end of 2022, there are just 13 cases in 4 countries.

Beyond wiping out diseases, he’s acted as an international mediator in North Korea, Haiti, and other nations. He was an active volunteer, focusing particularly on housing for the poor—still personally building houses into his 90s. He wrote numerous books on various subjects, from policy to his personal life and even poetry. He enjoyed a 77-year marriage to his beloved Rosalynn, “the foundation for my entire enjoyment of life,” Carter once said. Together, they had four children and 22 grandchildren and great-grandchildren. 

In short, it was a life of service and a life of virtue. Not virtue in the pious, judgmental sense, but in the Stoic sense–active in public life, active in the world, equal parts compassionate and muscular, he was a man deserving to command because he commanded himself first. And so, here are some of the very best lessons from the great Jimmy Carter on how to live a good and honorable life:

Hang in there. In the 1930s and 40s, the African Americans who entered the Naval Academy left because of appalling racism. Wesley Brown was on the brink of leaving when Carter, who was two years ahead, popped by his dorm room and said, “Hang in there.” Because Carter grew up in a small, rural, segregated town in Georgia, he was expected to be racist. And so, one classmate recalled, “he was treated as if he was a traitor.” Still, Carter would often put his arm around Brown and let him know he was there for him. Brown would hang in there and become the first African American graduate of the Naval Academy in 1949.

Make time every day for study and reflection. Even when he was president, Carter blocked out an hour in the mornings for reading, thinking, and prayer.

The best lessons are learned by example. Carter’s reading habit began as a child. Growing up, reading was done as a family. Each evening, his mother sat down for dinner with a book. The children were encouraged to follow suit. It wasn’t considered rude, Jimmy would later reflect, because reading at the table was simply a Carter Family habit. What a beautiful scene that must have been, even if it was a little untraditional: each of their faces buried in a book, each of them learning, entertaining themselves, widening their horizons. Carter carried this tradition on with his own family even as they moved into The White House in 1977.

Always do your best. In an interview with Admiral Hyman Rickover, the father of the nuclear Navy, Carter proudly said he was ranked 59th in a class of 840 at the Naval Academy. Instead of being impressed, Rickover asked, “Did you always do your best?” Carter answered honestly that he did not always do his best. After a long pause, Rickover asked, “Why not?” and then walked out of the room. Carter would never forget this question. This question became the lodestar of Carter’s life.

Do it now. In 1970, Jimmy Carter won a surprise victory for governor of Georgia. During his inauguration in 1971, he announced: “I say to you quite frankly that the time for racial discrimination is over.” The crowd was stunned. He had just run a conservative campaign in a conservative state, did he really have to make that statement right then? “It’s impossible for me to delay something that I see needs to be done,” Carter later explained. He always said that he never wanted to do anything to hurt his country—that’s why he made that bold declaration the moment he became governor. This is a lesson for all of us. There are so many things that we want to do in life, but we delay because it will be too hard, too controversial, too time-consuming. The danger in the delay, Carter understood, is that we don’t say we won’t do it, we say we’ll get to it later. And then we never do. No one knows how much time we have. The longer we wait, the more likely it is that we’ll never get around to it. So stop delaying. Do what needs to be done. Do it now.

Seriously, do it now. Six years after that stunning speech in Georgia, Carter was elected president of the United States. On his very first day in office, just hours after his inauguration parade, he held a meeting—literally his first appointment—with a disabled army veteran named Max Cleland to discuss yet another stunning announcement. After asking Cleland to head the Veterans Administration, Carter instructed him to begin working on a blanket pardon for everyone who had evaded serving in Vietnam. He believed the time for forgiveness and understanding had come. Cleland, who supported the idea, warned the president that it would be unpopular in the Senate and might be worth delaying, perhaps until his second term. “I don’t care if all 100 of them are against me,” Carter replied. “It’s the right thing to do.”

Be generous. During the Depression, wanderers and hobos would often stop at Carter’s childhood home in Georgia, which was not far from the railroad tracks. Carter’s mother would always fix them something to eat. Later, Jimmy Carter would learn that the community of homeless people during the Depression had a series of symbols to communicate which houses were decent and kind and which were heartless and cruel and to be avoided. The idea of this mark—of earning it from those in need—stayed with him all his life. It’s why, even into his nineties, he donated his time and money to help others and built houses for those who could not afford their own.

Use your powers for good. The Carter family met a woman named Mary Prince when they moved into the Georgia governor’s mansion in 1971. She had been assigned to their staff as part of a work program for incarcerated inmates. Carter’s wife, Rosalynn, quickly became convinced of Prince’s innocence and was appalled at the details of her conviction—Prince, a black woman, had been convinced by her lawyer to plead guilty to manslaughter. The lawyer then had her plead to murder, for which she received a life sentence. The Carters asked that Prince be assigned to nanny their young daughter, Amy, and eventually secured her parole and a full pardon. She came to live with them in The White House. After his presidency, Carter bought her a house down the street from the Carters’ in Plains, Georgia. They remained close friends for the rest of their lives. Carter would dedicate a book called Our Endangered Values to her in 2006.

Don’t be all about business. As he was setting up his administration in The White House, Carter told the ambitious staff, “We are going to be here a long time, and all of you will be more valuable to me and the country with rest and a stable home life.”

You have only one life to live. Make the most of it. Carter said that’s what drove him: “I feel I have one life to live. I feel like God wants me to do the best I can with it. And that’s quite often my major prayer. Let me live my life so that it will be meaningful.”

Run a tight ship. Everybody thinks Jimmy Carter was a bad president because he was too nice or too idealistic, that he should have waited until reelection to do some of the things he did. Turns out the real reason he struggled (and why he wasn’t re-elected) was that he tried to get away with not having a Chief of Staff (read Chris Whipple’s book The Gatekeepers). He was a good man, but he had trouble managing all the demands on his time and attention. This is an important lesson, I think: At the end of the day, it comes down to how well-organized you are and how tight a ship you run.

Don’t talk about it. Be about it. Jimmy Carter, once evaluating his relationship with his faith, asked himself: “If I was tried for being a Christian, would I be convicted?” It’s sort of a breathtaking question—imagine suddenly taking your word for it wasn’t enough. Imagine you were actually being investigated. What would the record show? This is such an important question to ask yourself not just of faith, but as a parent, as a spouse, as a friend, as an employee, as a boss. Are you as committed as you say you are? Would the evidence be compelling? Or would it turn out that you talked a good game, but didn’t actually walk it? In the end, it doesn’t matter what you say. It matters who you are.

Age is no barrier. When Jimmy Carter’s mother was 68 years old, she saw an ad on television for the Peace Corps that said “Age is no barrier.” So she joined. Almost 70 years old, she went to India and taught nutrition and family planning! Is it any wonder then, that Jimmy Carter’s post-presidential years were so productive and service-oriented? Even at age 96, he built houses for Habitat for Humanity, wrote books and taught Sunday school. Carter knew that age was no barrier–especially when it comes to doing the right thing.

Take care of yourself. A young Jimmy Carter was pulled aside by his father one day: “There is something I want you to promise me,” his father said, “I don’t want you to smoke a cigarette until you are twenty-one years old.” This was the late 1930s when something like 40% of the population smoked (Carter’s dad himself was hopelessly hooked). “I won’t,” Jimmy promised. In his lifetime, Carter smoked only one cigarette, at age twenty-one while in the Naval Academy. He hated it and never did again. Tragically, his siblings and mother picked up his father’s smoking habit and each died of cancer in one form or another. Jimmy, as we know, lived to be 100. Take care of yourself. It allows you to do more good. 

Get comfortable pissing people off. A Democratic congressman once said of Carter: “If that son of a bitch asks me to do the right thing one more time, I’m going to kick his ass.” No matter what you do, someone is going to be unhappy about it. This is a simple fact of life. But you can’t let it stop you.

Don’t cheat the gift. As a young man, Jimmy Carter heard the Parable of the Talents, which tells the story of three servants who are given money from their master to protect while he is away. When the master returns, he asks each servant what they did with the money. The first invested the money, the second put it in a bank, and the third buried it in fear of the responsibility. “I gather from this episode,” Carter says of the parable, “that we should use to the fullest degree whatever talents or opportunities we have been given, preferably for the benefit of others.” To whom much is given, the lesson from the parable goes, much is expected. Do your best. Become what you can be. You owe the world that much.

Be loyal. One campaign reporter once remarked that of all the presidents he covered in the 20th century, Jimmy Carter was the only president that he can say with absolute certainty was faithful to his wife. Jimmy Carter and his wife, Rosalyn, were together for 77 years, which is the longest-running marriage in the history of American Presidents.

Be tough on yourself, understanding of others. Jimmy Carter held his life to a high standard, but he was also honest with himself about his flaws and made sure never to boast. The famous ‘scandal’ where Carter admitted to having ‘lust in his heart,’ was Carter trying to say that he didn’t judge people who did have affairs because he himself was not without sin. “The guy who is loyal to their wife ought not be condescending or proud because of his relative degree of sinfulness,” he once said in an interview. Strict with yourself, Marcus Aurelius would say, and tolerant of others.

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On the one hand, I was sad to hear of Carter’s passing. On the other, I wasn’t that sad. Because no one could say that he was taken from us too soon. Not because he was given plenty of time on this planet, but because of what he did with that time. This man certainly lived.

I thought about this a few months ago when I went back to that barber shop while I was in New Orleans on business.

Pat didn’t remember me and I wasn’t sure if I remembered the conversation right, so I sort of danced around it. But I found a way to bring it up.

 “Who doesn’t like Jimmy Carter?” he said, when I asked him again about the other barbers. “He’s one of the most decent men who ever lived.” 

Agreed!

January 8, 2025by Ryan Holiday

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